What Are Friends For?
Saturday, July 13, 2019
There is no purpose of friendship, because the moment you assign one, it begins to dissolve.
I am lucky to have friends from all walks of life, who live in different geographical locations, and the best part is that they all have very contrasting back stories. Some have taught me art forms, from some I've learned to enjoy, and a few that have given me the best life lessons, willingly or unwillingly. With them, I've changed a lot in last 10 years, from a overly excited, impressionable, I don't care what they think, laughing at everything I saw; Now obviously I know more, now I talk less, am more confident, and even if I care, I don't wear my heart on sleeves and don't push anyone when I feel I should do it for their benefit.
For people like me, I guess we empathise a lot more than required. Putting ourselves in their shoes, we mentally feel their pain and don't want to abandon. Personally, I've been a guy who wanted to change the world bit by bit, stopping by every broken car, caring for small things, many times going out of the way; the universe responds with kindness and abundance that is for sure.
It irks when someone is cynical and finds motives, next time I stop and guy asks my name, I don't answer; next time I see a flaw in friends theory that can give him loss, I keep mum for I don't want a tag of being judgemental; next time I see someone in despair, I give them a rain check so as they don't cal me a sadist. I have my own agenda in life; better stick to that. But but but... When I get a call from the person who helped me in my low, when I recall that ride when we were stuck, and uncle helped us, when I remember how one day a trekker offered me a bottle of water at 12000ft at a barren mountain top, where water was km away. I feel so small, I smile and try to become like that. What are friends for, if we can't take ridicule of the person we care. Watching Kabir Singh, I thought it's not a movie about the love of the guy and the girl, it's about friendship; what are friends for?
Don't get disappointed by the supposed shallowness of few; they have their own story, own upbringing, and own way of life; if you have empathy, understand them.
For people like me, I guess we empathise a lot more than required. Putting ourselves in their shoes, we mentally feel their pain and don't want to abandon. Personally, I've been a guy who wanted to change the world bit by bit, stopping by every broken car, caring for small things, many times going out of the way; the universe responds with kindness and abundance that is for sure.
It irks when someone is cynical and finds motives, next time I stop and guy asks my name, I don't answer; next time I see a flaw in friends theory that can give him loss, I keep mum for I don't want a tag of being judgemental; next time I see someone in despair, I give them a rain check so as they don't cal me a sadist. I have my own agenda in life; better stick to that. But but but... When I get a call from the person who helped me in my low, when I recall that ride when we were stuck, and uncle helped us, when I remember how one day a trekker offered me a bottle of water at 12000ft at a barren mountain top, where water was km away. I feel so small, I smile and try to become like that. What are friends for, if we can't take ridicule of the person we care. Watching Kabir Singh, I thought it's not a movie about the love of the guy and the girl, it's about friendship; what are friends for?
Don't get disappointed by the supposed shallowness of few; they have their own story, own upbringing, and own way of life; if you have empathy, understand them.
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